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How to Get the Lady You’re Interested in

December 23, 2008

Get her interested!

So lately I have been meeting men who have been interested in me and some of them just have NOT been going about getting my attention the right way.  I will list here some simple Do’s and Do NOT’s for all of you men (and this can apply to women as well)…

Let us start with the Do Not’s…

No NoDO NOT: Automatically Assume she is interested in you because she is kind, cordial and/or sweet.

Perspective: Some woman are kind and feel bad or pity, when having to reject a man. Not to mention woman can be nurturing and friendly, this in NO WAY is an indication that she is interested in You.

DO NOT: Get touchy on the first date, second, or third date especially if you and her aren’t even on a date!

Perspective: There is no need to touch the head, waist, hips or hands when first getting to know someone. This can create tension and discomfort. It also subliminally says a lot about the man’s intentions. There is however a rule, if she is touchy with you first, then just mirror her.

DO NOT: Call, email and/or text message obsessively, especially after the first month of getting her contact info. This is an indication of “stalker” status.

Perspective: A woman does not want nor need a man who is or appears to be needy and desperate; unless she herself is the same. Either way, slow down and take your time in developing a liking to each other. We can understand, the intrigue is exciting, but obsessive habits are not a good look.

DO NOT: Appear childish on or addicted to  social websites.

Perspective: No woman finds a man attractive if  he feels or believes he has to constantly update what he is doing or who he is with on aim, myspace, facebook, etc.  No one wants to know who you are angry with, what this person has done to you, or the fact that you cannot step away from your computer or phone. Downtime and personal time can and most of the time will always be a turn on.

DO NOT: Show her that you are interested in other females even if you and her are not exclusively an item.

Perspective: Obvious reasons…right?

DO NOT: Ask her to lend you money for a tip at the bar or any other thing you might need “in the start of courtship”.

Perspective: Woman would like to develop trust and know that a man can hold his own in the financial department. Men are naturally, “the provider”.

DO NOT: Talk bad about former girlfriends or friends.

Perspective: This will make you look like you play the victim role and like to put the blame on others. Instead, you can say what you’ve learned and why you are looking forward to starting a new.

DO NOT: Tell her on the first date, second, or third that she will be “wifey” or that you are so good that she will want to have a serious relationship with you. Especially right after you got out of a serious relationship.

Perspective: Women like a man who is confident but try to leave your ego at the door. You do not want to appear desperate with “relationship fever” either.

And let’s end with the DO’s

DO: Hold the door, offer to pay, compliment on personality and show manners and good behavior.

Perspective: Women, not all, but many woman naturally look up to men. We like the fact that a man can carry himself well with ease and maturity. Chivalry will NEVER die, so please don’t convince yourself that women like to be treated abusively.

DO: Tell her your plans and ambitions.

Perspective: A woman likes to know a man will be responsible and take care of himself, future family, and succeed with much success. Be sure to not over talk, allow her to also share her own goals with you. Be cautious of how you and her take turns speaking.

DO: Dress appropriately and be clean without too much cologne.

Perspective: A woman likes to know a man tries but not too hard.

Give her your attentionDO: Give her your undivided attention

Perspective: If you receive an important phone call, say excuse me and walk away. Don’t tell her too much about your personal life too soon. Give her something to be curious about, she’ll want more.

TIP: This also will show you if she is nosy, perhaps controlling, and or jealous.

DO: Tell her in person how much fun you had with her.

Perspective: With technology, we wait now and text message later…try to be old fashioned and personal.

AND REMEMBER THIS IS ONLY FROM EXPERIENCE AND MY PERSPECTIVE. ALL WOMAN AND MEN ARE DIFFERENT BUT MY DO’S AND DO NOT’S ARE HIGHLY RECOMMENDED FOR ANYONE WHO IS TRULY INTERESTED IN THE OTHER PERSON. FOLLOW THESE STEPS AND YOU CAN HAVE A WONDERFUL START TO A SATISFYING RELATIONSHIP.

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